Dear Strong Woman,
You do TOO MUCH to be brought down by things that don’t align with your vision.
Ask yourself what is really important to you, and then have the courage to build your life around your answer.
Sometimes that means cutting out things…or people…which can be totally uncomfortable. But…isn’t that to be expected? It’s something you’ve never done, but that’s because you’ve never been this version of YOU before.
Which means it is ABSOLUTELY NECESSARY, regardless of how hard it may be.
For today, I am asking you, Strong Woman, to take a trip down memory lane with me. I’d like to share something I wrote in early January surrounding this exact topic, before the concept of ‘Dear Strong Woman’ even came into being.
I remember crying my eyes out in a Starbucks while I wrote it, and how FREE I felt upon completing it. I still cry when I read it, but they are happy tears due to how much stronger I have become as a result of this…because I’ve chosen to only surround myself with those who lift me up rather than drag me down.
That’s what happens when you shine your light, loves. Your vibe attracts your tribe.
I fought back tears during the last round of my workout yesterday. True story.
It caught me out of nowhere because I let my emotional guard down for a brief second. Not something I do often, and definitely not something I expected to do during a workout…let alone a workout led by the guy who actually created the workout…while doing said workout simultaneously with 800 other people.
The trigger? Joel (the trainer) said (something like), “Keep going! Don’t give up! How you treat these last 30 seconds is how you will treat 2017!”
Perhaps that’s not a tear-jerking statement for you, but I’ve been a bit of an emotional wreck the past week and a half. I’ve felt it, but I didn’t realize how I was outwardly carrying it until Anders pointed out that I’ve been on the verge of tears a lot recently.
The short of it: letting go of things, even when it’s absolutely necessary in order for you to move forward, isn’t easy…and it’s especially difficult when those “things” are people. People who, on the surface, appear to be very close to you, and yet deep down don’t know you at all.
So that “keep going don’t give up” statement emphasized my resolve to embrace my forward progress, not the old “keep holding on, don’t give up on them” attitude I used to adopt. That give-a-little-more-of-yourself tactic in hopes that they’d give a little back in return. Damn, I used to LIVE by that rule! It took me the better part of 30 years to realize the difference between me giving and them taking.
It makes me emotional because a part of me still feels….selfish! I’m making it all about me here! But it is NECESSARY. My star is RISING, and I can’t let someone – anyone! – weigh me down. And truth be told…if I cut someone out, chances are it’s because they handed me the scissors.
So my watery-eyed last 30 seconds of kick boxing was my acceptance of the whole damn thing. Snip snippity snip, y’all.
What I hope you take away from my I-cried-during-a-workout story is this:
You will evolve.
Not everyone will.
These last three lines have become my battle cry.
I welcome you to adopt them, too.