Dear Strong Woman,
Endings are just as important as beginnings.
I wanted to leave this chapter powerfully. Doors I’ve closed in the past were often slammed shut, locked, and turned away from with a flair of “Good riddance.” Whether it was a job or a relationship, my habit was to give until I was so empty that I blamed the job or relationship for my exhaustion. This created a lot of negativity and resentment, and made me feel like I had to escape in order to save myself. A vicious cycle.
I broke that cycle this time around. When it came time to step away from my part time job, I did it because I wanted to, not because I needed to in order to protect my sanity. I protected my boundaries throughout my time working there so that the decision to leave was full of possibility and celebration rather than “See ya never!” And as I sit here on Day One of be being a full-time business owner, no longer working for someone else, it feels good to know I can look back on that chapter and smile rather than cringe.
Now that we’ve entered this final month of the year, you too may be thinking about endings and beginnings. Let this be a reminder that you don’t need a toxic environment to exist before you walk away from something. You also don’t need that goodbye to have a covert “go to hell” laced inside it.
Things can end without the drama.
Things can begin without us needing to push against something in the past.
As I sit here and play Misterwives’ SUPERBLOOM on repeat, and look towards December, towards 2021, and towards this next chapter in my life, I’m committed to showing up for all beginnings and endings with the same amount of joy, compassion, presence, grace, and strength.
🎼I deserve congratulations ‘cause I came out the other side.🎼